In the midst of a crisis, it’s hard to think clearly and make good decisions. That’s why it’s important to know ahead of times what to do when the going gets tough. A safety plan gives you a template for action when you are feeling suicidal, tempted to self-harm, drawn into addictions, engaging in unhealthy behaviors or feeling self-destructive.
Having a written safety plan can be a huge help when you’re symptomatic, so let’s make one. One way of doing this is by looking at all the questions surrounding the issue. By using those five Ws, you can pretty quickly explore the many facets of staying safe. Grab a piece of paper or copy the questions into your word processor and finish this post with a safety plan in hand.
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You don’t have to go through tough times alone. Write down the people in your support system who are good listeners and who know how to make you feel better. Include their addresses, phone numbers and/or email addresses just in case you don’t have access to that information. Put a suggestion by each name stating what this person can be helpful for, like “Call my boyfriend to hear why I am loved,” or “Visit my mom to get advice.”
What can I do to feel better?
Think about difficult times in the past and try to identify what, exactly, you were feeling and maybe even what caused those feelings. By identifying what’s setting you off, you can better find ways to manage it. Write a list of your most common triggers and a healthy way to deal with each one. This might look like “When I feel scared to go outside, I can have someone come with me,” or “When I am disappointed, I can create a gratitude list.”
When do I need to seek help?
Know your limits. Create a guide showing what to do at the different stages you might escalate through. This takes away the decision making element that can be overwhelming when you are upset. It could look something like this: “Feeling sad: Go for a walk. Wanting to hurt myself: Spend time around friends. Engaged in self-injury: Care for my wounds, then do something nice for myself. Feeling suicidal: E-mail my therapist. Actively suicidal: Call a suicide hotline or 911.”
Where can I go?
Sometimes a change of scenery can make all the difference. Make a list of places that you enjoy or that are helpful to you. While still being safe, make sure you have options for both day and night, even if it’s just a different room in the house. Some places you might want to consider are the homes of loved ones, support groups, your favorite park, a local coffee shop, the library, a scenic route for driving or even your own backyard.
Why should I not do this?
Make a list of all the reasons acting on your impulses aren’t a good idea. Acknowledge the negative consequences, but make sure to also stay positive. Having something worth not giving in for is really helpful. This could range from “I want to keep my body healthy,” to “I want to reach three months without this behavior,” or simply, “I deserve to be happy.” If you need help getting started, a list of reasons to recover can be found here.
Keep copies of your safety plan in accessible places, like in your purse, wallet, backpack, car, nightstand, comfort box and on your phone. You can also give them to people you trust who will notice when you are having a tough time so that they’ll have a guide for how to best help you. If you haven’t already been following along, I really suggest you do this. Having a safety plan is invaluable when you are in the midst of being symptomatic. It’s a lot easier to think of things now than in the moment.
What did you include in your safety plans? Is something important missing? Make suggestions in the comments.
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