7 signs of abuse in children

Child abuse is one of the greater evils in society. It can be incredibly damaging to children and affect them for the rest of their lives. This is why it’s so important to catch abuse as often or early as possible. Here are some signs to look out for. (This list is by no means comprehensive.) 

1. Problems regulating emotions

It’s hard for abused children to safely express emotions, so they might have outbursts of strong feelings. This can manifest in their behavior as well. When the child does something somewhat explosive, try to find out what feelings were behind it. This trouble regulating emotions can continue into adulthood.

 

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2. Excessive fear of doing something wrong

When a child has a strong fear of doing something wrong, it might be because she is used to being punished for her mistakes and shortcomings. Even trivial decisions might be difficult due to fear of making the wrong choice. This fear might also manifest as being withdrawn or anxious. It might be a fear related to a certain type of choices or a generalized fear.

3. Unexplained physical injuries

Look for bruises, cuts and other injuries. If the child has no explanation – or provides an unconvincing one – monitor it. If there is abuse in the home, it may be continuous, leading the child to have frequent injuries. Accident proneness is one thing, but that will have more credible explanations (though it might still indicate neglect). 

4. Extremes in behavior

Another sign of abuse in children is that they are very extreme in their behaviors. This can go either way. They might be very rigid or they might be disorganized. They can be excessively obedient or completely rebellious. If a child is “too much” of anything and completely lacks the ability to navigate a middle ground, it’s a bad sign.

5. Age-inappropriate sexual knowledge

If a child seems to know a lot more about sex than he should, it might be a sign of sexual abuse. This can manifest both verbally and in behaviors. They might have a lack of appropriate physical boundaries with others or even be overtly seductive. This can, however, also swing to the other extreme, where the child is wary of touch in general.

6. Avoiding someone specific

A child may be trying to escape abuse by avoiding the abuser as much as she can. If there is no obvious reason for the child to avoid this person, it’s worth looking into. This is more than just going to his room because he doesn’t feel like being around someone. The child might hide when the person is nearby or even run away from home.

7. Regressing to earlier behaviors

An abused child might use coping skills from a younger age. This might include wetting the bed, fear of the dark, thumb-sucking, needing a comfort object and clinginess. It can even extend to the child being less skilled in language usage, talking like someone who is younger. It is especially worrying if the child has quit the behavior before, but is returning to it.

If you suspect that a child is being abused, you need to contact someone. A good starting point is a child abuse hotline. In the U.S., the national number is 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453). If you live elsewhere, search online for a number or contact local authorities. It is better to be safe than sorry when it comes to children who might continue to be hurt if you don't seek help.

Do you feel like you could notice if a child is being abused? Talk about what helps identify these children in the comments.