5 things suicidal people talk about

    

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Being suicidal can come with a wide range of symptoms and behaviors. It will manifest in as many different ways as there are people. But there are commonalities that tend to appear. One of those is what they talk about. If the following topics come up, you may want to pry further to check on the wellbeing of the person in question.

1. Wanting to die

The idea that suicidal people don’t talk about suicide is definitely a myth. They frequently give indications of their desire to die, sometimes even flat out saying that they want to commit suicide. Saying it does not mean that they won’t do it. Sometimes it’s more indirect, with statements like, “I wish I’d just get hit by a bus.” If someone says anything at all that indicates a desire to be dead, it should be pried
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2. Feeling stuck, hopeless and having no reason to live

Suicide sometimes happens because there seem to be no other options. Talking about hopelessness or entrapment can therefore be a warning that the person is headed in that direction. There are always options. We may not like them, but they are there. When suicidal, though, those options can seem to disappear. This topic is an indicator that should be taken seriously.

3. Being a burden

Being suicidal can make one feel like a waste of space. Suicidal individuals might feel like they are simply a problem in the lives of others. They might think that others would be better off without them. This can be especially true when illness is present that requires assistance. If the person can’t contribute in the same way others are contributing, it can set off thoughts about the lives of loved ones being better without him or her.

4. Suddenly making big improvements

Sometimes, suicide is preceded by a significant increase in mood. The person might be a lot happier and more positive. This can come from feeling at peace with the decision to actually end ones life. Talking about how something “won’t be a problem any longer” or “doesn’t matter anymore” can stem from the decision to not be around at all. The more rapid and extreme the change is, the more you should ask questions to see what’s really going on.

5. Saying goodbye

It is normal to want a sense of closure. That’s why suicidal people sometimes go around and say goodbye to or make amends with others. It might be in an indirect way, such as, “I value our friendship and would miss it if we were away from each other,” or, “If anything happens to me, I want you to know…” The hypotheticals might not be so hypothetical after all, so it’s important to look out for these statements.

In combination with other warning signs, especially, it is important to take action. Always make sure that the person you care about has resources. There are suicide hotlines, doctors, therapists and community mental health organizations. If you aren’t sure of what to do, you can reach out to these resources as well and ask for appropriate advice. If you believe suicide is imminent or there is an actual attempt, call 911 or take the person to the emergency room. It may cause some upset in the short term, but having an angry loved one is better than having a dead one.

Have you talked to someone and worried about suicidality? How did you know that you needed to reach out?